downdaddy: I’m not attracted to my wife when she’s high. She smokes “the green”, and I’m fine with the fact she does, but I don’t like the person she is when she’s high. She’s not as sharp, is forgetful, indecisive, and generally disconnected from the world. In other words, the exact opposite of the person I fell in love with.
I don’t mind that she likes feeling that way, but she wants to be that way all the time. Sometimes I’d like to feel like she wants to be around me and the family without having to be stoned.
She’s got a lot of anxiety issues, and a few other things that make living with her difficult, but those kinds of things I want to help her with and get through together. I don’t feel like I can do that when she prefers lighting up over talking through stress.