I had a baby with sperm donated by a man who advertised on Craigslist. If my very religious family found out it wasn’t an “accident” I would be completely shunned and disowned.
SecretsSecretsOhMy: I am an ugly female. No, that’s not the secret. But, I am ugly because I have a facial deformity that I was born with. I’ve never had a long-term partner and only had sex a few times in my life. My biological clock was ticking loudly and I desperately wanted a child – there wasn’t going to be enough time to meet someone and my odds were none existent as a middle-aged, ugly female.
I own my home, and have a career – but I didn’t want to lose all my savings to pay to have it done through a clinic and sperm donation, etc. It would have been at least $15K per try. My chances of adopting were also almost nonexistent as any woman looking to adopt her baby out isn’t going to pick the ugly, middle-aged lady to adopt their baby, plus it is crazy freaking expensive. I wanted the money I had in savings to be towards raising the child.
So I turned to Craigslist and got it for free.
My child is a preschooler now and I’ve never been happier or more fulfilled. I pinch myself every day because my child is in my life and I feel so freaking lucky. Every day is a dream come true and I savor each and every moment. I try to be the best mom I can be in every way. Parenting really makes you take a long, hard look at yourself and how you show up in the world. I am a parent from my heart.
I regularly send pictures and updates to the generous and selfless man who trusted me on a handshake.