redpoisondevil: Due to some financial hardships, I had to move back in with my parents at the ripe old age of 29. Since living here (it has been almost two years now), I met the most wonderful man I’ve ever dated (I’m a chick, BTW).
The “problem” is he’s black. I’m white. I’ve dated a black guy before, years ago, and back then, my father said explicitly that he had a problem with it.
After meeting my new fella, I kept my mouth shut to see if I could tell if he’d changed his tune over the years. One day, my father (while discussing a hypothetical situation) said again he would NOT approve of me dating a black man. From then on, I definitely kept my mouth shut.
The thing is, I’m continuing to live at home because while I have a job, I make so little money that I literally cannot afford to move out.
And so, it’s been a year of seeing my boyfriend and lying to my parents constantly about where I am. If they found out I was seeing a black guy, they’d be pissed.
I’d be kicked out if they found out I’d been seeing him for a year and lying to them. I keep looking for another job that pays better so I can move out.
Once I have my own place again, I’ll figure out a way to tell them (maybe not the already-been-together-a-year part). If they disown me, then it’ll hurt, but at least I won’t be out on my ass.