CorkLad212: My spouse cheated on me 12 years ago and I found out 7 years ago because I spied via email years after the fact. I wasn’t even suspicious or suspected anything. I saw a folder with the name of a person I didn’t know and I clicked on it. It was full of heartbreaking emails and pictures.
I also found out she broke it off after what I believe was 10-16 months of seeing him and told the other person how much she loved me and regrets it all after she got pregnant with his child.
Reading through hundreds of emails, I found out she wasn’t 100% sure it was his child or mine. She told me she was pregnant all those years ago but told me she didn’t want any more kids and decided to terminate.
I didn’t agree with the decision but respected her wishes. She went with her father as I refused to go along. I felt horrible and guilty for years because I didn’t support her by being with her at the hospital. I felt like a piece of manure for doing that.
She told the other guy if I ever found out she’d commit suicide. She wrote about me a lot. None of it was negative. She wrote about how great of a man I am and how I took care of everyone. I couldn’t find a single negative email about our relationship.
I have never been able to confront her out of fear she’d kill herself or lose my family/her. I have forgiven her in my own mind but have never told a soul.